Life goes on. How many times have people said that to you? Yeah, no matter what, life goes on. “Stop” isn’t in life’s vocabulary. You can avoid it, you can numb yourself to it, but you can’t make it stop. Even after death, life goes on. We may like to think so, but the simple fact is that we are not gods. We cannot bend life to our will. Our life will continue as it may, and we can only choose how to deal with it. We can choose what we do but not what life does. I find that many people are unhappy with their lives. Why? Usually because they can’t control it. It isn’t what they want. If only they were richer, if only they were famous, if only they had more drugs. We, as people, try to use things to avoid the reality of reality: Life goes on.
I think more people would be more happy if they stopped trying to ride life like it’s the bull machine out of hell. They’re clinging on tight trying to get it under control, and in the end they just get thrown to the ground. After a couple of mouthfuls of dirt they just look for things to numb the pain. That, however, is not what life is about. Life is about living, and part of truly living is feeling. Being numb is not a natural or God-given state. We are meant to feel. Yeah, life hurts a hell of a lot sometimes, and it would be nice to be numb during those times. But numbness has no discretion as to what times are good and what times are bad. After a while, you’ll start to miss everything good in life if you choose to numb yourself.
Besides, the bad times, the pain, the hurt; they teach us to better appreciate the good times. Conversely, the good times should teach us how to maintain joy through the bad times. I’m not kidding. You might as well try to be happy during the bad times because being pissed isn’t going to change them. Like I said, you can’t control life, but you can control how you deal with it. All kinds of things have happened to me in my paltry nineteen years on this planet. I stopped asking “why” things happen a long time ago. Now I just ask “what” I’m supposed to do with what does happen. I’ll change a famous JFK quote because it works so well: Ask not what life can do for you, instead ask what you can do for your life. That just means life is going to do what it’s going to do, and you just have to figure out what’s best for you to do in response to what it does. Getting tired of all the “do’s?” Me too.
Let’s bring this tirade full circle to the title: “The Continual State of the Present.” I chose the title for the reason that life only exists in the present. The present is the continual state in which in the past and future meet. There is no life in the past because it is already gone, and there is no life in the future because it does not yet exist. Life is now, and only now. Every minute, every second the now slips away and a new now takes it’s place. That’s life.
Some people try to live in the past, many in their high school days or college shenanigans. Unfortunately it doesn’t work, because as great as those times may have been there is no longer any life in them. They are dead and gone. Other people try to live in the future, many in hope that what is to come is brighter than what is. Well, the future doesn’t exist yet, so life doesn’t live there either. We can only live in the now. We will only every have true life if we quit looking backward and trying to plan our lives in the future. The continual state of the present doesn’t stop for anyone, and anyone focused on anything other than the now will be left behind. We can’t stop it; we can’t change it. Life goes on.